Beth was in a 30 day program and from there went to an extended treatment, inpatient. She became mentally unstable and now is in a mental facility. It it hard getting her regulated on the right meds. She wants to go back to the treatment program because she feels so stressed there. I have to let the people there decide what is best. She is 500 miles from home. Some days she sounds good on the phone, others she is confused. It seems like everytime she relapses with drugs, her mental problems get worse. I feel so frustrated not being able to see her.
Dear Bethsmom, So sorry to hear about your daughter. Drugs do make them unstable. My daughter Stella is extemely unstable now and has been for some time. She has lucid moments. Once when the family was in a hotel room she got up with only a pajama top on and was walking down the hallway. I happened to wake up and saw her go out the door. How she is now I don't know as we haven't seen each other for over 4 years. Bethsmom, I'm so much further down the line than you. I can tell you this, start finding yourself once more. Read the co-depentent books over and over. There's much you can't change. The rest of your family needs you. Sounds hard I know but I speak from heartbreaking experience.Love to you, Deb
I've never done this.but i don't fell alone anymore . I just read tweak and now i'm going buy beautiful boy for every one in my family.the book let me understand my husband whom we met in the military seen him in this book and myself.Im older than he is but never done drugs he was diagnosed with dual mental disorders and had a troubled childhood.but I never set boundaries in our relationship feeling guilty but I'm so happy to see I'm not alone.Ive been going through this hell for 5 years I don't know what to do.
Hi Faith, no you're not alone for sure! The blessing of this site that David Sheff created is that we can come here and realize that we are never alone. Sometimes it's easier to talk to people who don't know us, because it can be so easy for people to judge us because of our loved ones who are alcoholics or addicts. They have never walked this horrific road and I pray they never have to either. Please continue to come and share, there are so many wonderful people here who care. Also, please try to take care of yourself, I know it's hard, but do your best. Thinking of you, Ann
Bethsmom, I so understand what you are feeling. The more damage they do to their bodies and minds, the more their thinking gets cloudy. I have been through episodes with my son that were terrifying and then a day or so later his mind was clear. Just wanted you to know that I care and am thinking of you, Ann